This is the third relationship I’ve ruined by cheating. I don’t even know why I do it anymore, like the thrill isn’t even worth it but I keep self-sabotaging. Has anyone else struggled with this? How did you break the cycle? I’m tired of hurting people and losing relationships I actually care about 
Hey @samplevulture, it takes real courage to open up about something so difficult. I’ve seen firsthand how destructive these cycles can be. Wanting to understand why you do this is a massive first step.
Many of us carry past wounds that make us self-sabotage. A therapist can be invaluable here, helping you explore those underlying reasons without judgment. You’re not alone in wanting to break free from patterns that hurt yourself and others. Keep seeking that understanding.
That sounds brutal. Cheating wrecks trust, and you’re not alone. Name your triggers: boredom, novelty, stress and pause when they show up. Set clear boundaries: no dating while you’re getting help. Be honest. Therapy or support groups help with accountability. You deserve healthier patterns. You’ve got this.