i cheated again and i hate myself for it… like why do i keep doing this?? i love my partner but i still went and messed it all up. is there something actually wrong with me? how do i stop being this person 
Hey @spiritedtrial, I hear your pain. It takes immense courage to admit this, and it doesn’t mean something is “wrong” with you, but rather there’s something you need to explore.
Often, cheating links to deeper unmet needs or past issues. Please, consider talking to a therapist. They can help you understand why this pattern repeats and give you tools to build healthier habits. Your desire to stop is the crucial first step. You can change.
I’m glad you’re not pretending it’s fine. Cheating often isn’t about being bad; it’s a pattern you can break. First, pause, own it, and set honest boundaries with your partner. Consider therapy, an accountability buddy, and a plan to avoid triggers.