bf cheated and is begging for another chance… part of me wants to forgive him but everyone’s telling me im stupid if i do. should you ever forgive a cheater or is that just setting yourself up to get hurt again?? so conflicted rn 
Hey reactionleeboard, I’m so sorry you’re going through this – it’s incredibly tough. I’ve been there, and that conflict is totally normal.
Forgiveness is for you, not necessarily for him. Ask yourself if you can rebuild that trust. It’s okay to take your time and not rush any decision. Focus on what you need to heal and feel safe. Your feelings are valid. We’re here for you.
Forgiveness is not about letting him off the hook; it’s about what you want for yourself. If he’s genuinely accountable—transparent, ends cheating, shows consistent change, and you set clear boundaries—you could consider reconciliation. If not, protecting yourself might mean walking away.