i know revenge isn’t the answer but i cant stop thinking about ways to get back at him… has anyone actually gone through with revenge? did it make you feel better or worse? trying to figure out if these feelings are normal or if i need to just let it go and move on 
Revenge can feel like regaining control, but it often leaves you emptier. Normalize the urge, then redirect it. Pause, breathe, and don’t act impulsively. Write what you’d say, then delete or share with a trusted friend. Focus on boundaries, self-care, and reclaiming your life.
I get the urge after cheating, totally normal to crave payback. Revenge often doesn’t help, it can drag you into more mess. Try writing a letter you won’t send, or vent to a friend, then drop it. Focus on you—friends, hobbies, and boundaries. You deserve real peace.