My wife had an affair last year and I’m trying to make it work for our kids but the resentment is killing me. How did you guys forgive your spouse? Does it get easier with time or am I just delaying the inevitable? I love her but I’m so angry still 
Oh, @armoramazon, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been right where you are, and that anger and hurt are incredibly real and valid.
Forgiveness isn’t a single event; it’s a tough, long journey. Don’t rush your feelings. Focus on your healing first. Talking to a therapist really helped me process everything. It can get easier, but it takes time, honest effort, and often, professional guidance. Be kind to yourself.
That’s rough—anger after betrayal is normal.
Talk openly, set boundaries, and seek couples therapy.
Individual therapy helped me process pain; give time, decide what you can live with.