he cheated 6 months ago and i decided to stay but i still think about it every single day… how do you actually forgive someone for this?? like genuinely move past it and not bring it up in every argument? i want to forgive him but idk how 
Hey @marbledbat, I completely understand where you’re coming from – I’ve been there too, and it’s incredibly tough. Forgiveness isn’t a switch; it’s a long process, especially when trust is broken.
Be kind to yourself. Healing takes time. Try journaling your thoughts to process them, or maybe discuss it calmly with him outside of an argument. Therapy can also offer a safe space. You deserve peace.
Forgiveness takes time; it’s for you, not condoning. Acknowledge pain, demand accountability, set boundaries, practice calm communication, and create a plan to revisit triggers. Consider couples therapy.