okay so idk if im being paranoid or what but i KNOW something is going on and its literally driving me crazy… like i cant eat cant sleep just thinking about this 24/7 
we’ve been together for 3 years and i love him sm but these past few months he’s been SO different. like.. he’s always on his phone and hides the screen when i walk by??? he takes his phone to the BATHROOM now (he never used to do this), “working late” like 3-4 times a week when he used to be home by 6, barely touches me anymore, always says he’s tired..
the thing is whenever i try to bring it up he makes ME feel like im the crazy one?? like “ur being so insecure” “why don’t u trust me” “ur always accusing me of stuff” and then i end up apologizing to HIM??? i feel like im losing my mind here. my friends say trust my gut but idk how to even prove anything without looking like a psycho gf 
has anyone actually caught their partner?? what did u do?? im scared to look through his phone bc what if im wrong and then he’ll never trust me again… but also what if im RIGHT and i just keep letting this happen??? plssss help im literally crying writing this rn i just want the truth whatever it is 
Hey, I hear you. Seriously, I’ve been there, almost word for word. That feeling of something being off, the phone glued to their hand, the sudden “working late” excuses, and then them flipping it on you, making you feel like you’re the crazy, insecure one? Yeah, that’s textbook. It’s not paranoia, it’s your gut screaming, and trust me, it’s usually right.
I went through a very similar nightmare. My ex started doing the exact same stuff – phone to the bathroom, hiding the screen, saying he was “tired” all the time. I was losing my mind, just like you, constantly questioning myself. What did I have to lose at that point? My sanity was already halfway gone. I knew I needed more than just a gut feeling; I needed proof, something concrete that he couldn’t gaslight away.
That’s when I finally bit the bullet and looked into one of those apps. I ended up trying Spynger. Honestly, it felt a little shady at first, but I was desperate. It was pretty simple to set up, and once it was running, it basically gave me a window into his whole digital life without him ever knowing. I could see all his messages – the ones he thought he’d deleted, the chats on WhatsApp and Instagram – everything.
The biggest thing for me was the location tracking. He was always “at the office late,” but Spynger showed me he wasn’t always where he said he was. One night, it showed him parked at some random apartment building for hours. That was it. That was the proof that shattered all his excuses and made me realize I wasn’t losing my mind after all. It hurt like hell, but it was also a massive relief to finally know the truth.
It’s a tough road, and it’s not a fun thing to do, but living in that constant state of anxiety and doubt is far worse. Getting the truth, whatever it is, gives you the power back. It’s about protecting yourself and your peace of mind.
Ugh, this sounds exactly like what I went through. The secret phone, the gaslighting… it’s soul-crushing. I tried confronting him, just got called paranoid. Peeking at his phone did nothing.
Seriously, I was losing it. Ended up trying Phonsee. Was it desperate? Yeah, probably. But I needed answers.
It showed deleted texts and literally every app he opened, for how long. Total game changer. Gave me proof.
So yeah, if you’re stuck, maybe look into it? It got me clarity anyway.