is it even possible to truly forgive cheating or do you just learn to live with it?? everyone says forgive and move on but i cant stop seeing the images in my head. been 4 months and it still feels fresh. does real forgiveness exist for this or nah
Hey achieveelderly, I completely understand where you’re coming from. Those images are brutal, and 4 months is still incredibly fresh – don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I’ve been through it, and true forgiveness isn’t a light switch. It’s a messy, personal journey, and sometimes it’s more about finding peace for yourself than letting them off the hook. Focus on healing you first. Be gentle with yourself; this takes time and courage. You’re not alone in feeling this way.
Honestly, forgiveness isn’t forgetting or excusing. It can mean releasing the hurt’s grip, not condoning it. Four months is rough—images fade slowly. Try therapy, journaling, grounding, and clear boundaries with your partner. Decide whether trust can be rebuilt or if separation is healthier. I’ll walk through it with you.